There are some thing you should know about being father. I will point only one of them and then you will continue,Deal? Accept all offers to babysit. Repeatedly. There's a weird lag time between when a child is ready to be left with someone (which is pretty much once they can bottle-feed or go four hours between nursing) and when the parents are ready to leave them (which is often much later). Fatigue and frustration are cumulative, and you need a break long before you realize you need one. Your partner may (or may not) protest, but do your best to talk him into letting you take him out on a brief date. Everything looks more manageable and more joyful after a good meal and a glass of wine.
Babies + Travel = Not the mess you’d expect.Most people are intimidated by the idea of boarding a plane with an infant, but this is, in fact, the best time to hit the road. At three months old, a bottle or boob is all that's required to keep them entertained. They have few needs and fewer opinions, so there's no difference (for them) between Cozumel and Cleveland. Go get a tan while you still can.You’ll sometimes think you made a huge mistake.It’s normal every now and then to secretly wonder why you ever had a kid in the first place. Forgive yourself these occasional moments of self-doubt and, from time to time, let yourself mourn your pre-parenthood life. These moments will be short-lived.
Buy a rechargeable, cordless hand vacuum. Much of your time will be spent getting things off the floor. At first, it will be all manner of bodily fluids, but soon enough, you're going to be dealing with everything from Cheerios to banana slices. Later, the list will grow to include things like glitter, dirt, forgotten bacon and pretty much anything that can be shredded by small hands. And the clunky upright is too annoying to drag out four times a day.It's perfectly acceptable to make an entire dinner in the microwave. That’s it. Do not be scared! You will be a great parent!
Act like a grown-up.One of the most heartbreaking sights is that of a parent and their young child in a shouting match trying to see who can out-tantrum the other. Children are an endless source of joy, but only when they're not being an endless source of frustration. Breathe deeply and never let yourself escalate to the level of irrational fury that your little one occasionally inhabits. A two-year-old has the right to act like a child; you do not.Hand-me-downs are more than okay.Not only are secondhand baby things easier on the wallet and the environment, it’s a lot less agonizing when you find yourself on the fourth outfit of a craptastic kind of day (which, trust me, you will).
Accept all offers to babysit. Repeatedly.There's a weird lag time between when a child is ready to be left with someone (which is pretty much once they can bottle-feed or go four hours between nursing) and when the parents are ready to leave them (which is often much later). Fatigue and frustration are cumulative, and you need a break long before you realize you need one. Your wife may (or may not) protest, but do your best to talk her into letting you take her out on a brief date. Everything looks more manageable and more joyful after a good meal and a glass of wine.
Make time for the other relationships in your life.Not only is it important for your child to know there's more to the world than you catering to their every need, but you're also teaching them a very important lesson about what it means to have a full, loving life. Seeing you in the role of good friend or devoted spouse is a way for your kids to learn what it means to actually be a good friend or devoted spouse.There's no such thing as using too many wipes.There's no prize for using every last corner of a towelette, and it's shockingly difficult to get the smell of baby crap off your hands. At three cents per sheet, everybody's hygiene and gag reflex are well-served by the generous and preemptive use of wipes.
You’re a full, equal partner in turning a small, fragile sack of fluid and bones into a loving, decent, healthy citizen of the Universe. Never let the fact that other people aren't sure what to do with a man between conception and Little League fool you into thinking that you're anything less than critical to every step of the process. Be informed, aggressively involved and as in love as you're capable of letting yourself be. And other comments above are really cool too! But even if each of us will write a comment - it will not be enough to describe all the surprises you will get being a father
Everything hasn’t changed. This is a big one. Everyone tells you everything changes. And everything has changed for you. But this is what you should remember: for everyone else, everything is still the same. You may not be able to believe this. It will be hard for you, with your friends, because for them their lives are the same as the day before. People on the street will not treat you differently. You will not understand how no one notices: a comet has hit the earth and you are the only one who knows. Do not be afraid to be a father. Be the best one for your child.
To spend some time together is always a good decision. Sometimes we think that if something does not so well we need to work harder to try harder, to make more efforts. But the truth is that in most of cases we need some rest, we need to relax and spend some time with our sweethearts, just having fun. Then we see that our problems are not so huge or complicated. And they can be easily solved together, hand in hand. When we feel somebody’s support, especially support of our closest people, it gives as wide wings to live and to create our future. And in this case our future will be full of joy and splendid moments with our family.
To take some rest is always a good idea. We should not forget to relax a little bit from time to time. It concerns all parts our life, not only a job. It is really useful for young parents to spend some time together. It remembers them about their love and adds some romantic to their life. These dates give wings to fly over everyday problems.
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