We talk a lot about children and what they mean to us. Some of you here already has a child, and who some of you are just planning to have a baby. But in any case, each of us has something in common. We all want to help our children become truly successful and happy while growing up in the near future. At the same time, each of us has his own view on this issue and solutions. But how is this correct? I would like to discuss in more detail all the things we should keep in mind if we want to foster a truly successful and happy child in our family! What about you? What do you think about it? What we need for this?
You can not know everything about the child's upbringing. But there are many experts who will tell you how to behave in order to grow healthy, happy, independent and successful child. And you can always ask for help from more experienced friends. Defend great expectations. If you convince yourself that your child invent a perpetual engine- he will do it. The same is true of other aspects of your child's life. American experts came to the conclusion that the more positively parents perceive their children and the more highly placed their expectations, the less likely that they someday touch the drugs and alcohol abuse will be in high school.
The correct education is a kind of vaccine, which protects the child from the negative influence on the part of its peers. Orient the child on the spiritual life. The experts found that high school students who take the Christian religion as an important part of their life, less likely to smoke marijuana. Religion is instilled in many ways. This is increasing the self-esteem of children, the formation of a sense of belonging to society and demonstrate intelligent solutions to problems. Girls who brought up as part of the religious establishment and self-esteem, do not allow yourself to enter into the delicate relationship in a fairly young age. You can not say about the others.
Keep your children in conversation with adults. The same experts argue that children with a spiritual mentor, intelligent ally, coach or acquaintance lawyer likely will not participate in the event of doubt, threatening their life and health. Dine with your child at least 5 times a week. Let it be the usual sandwiches. joint use of food Act defines family unity and allows you to simultaneously correct the child's behavior in school or outside of it. These children achieve better academic performance in the classroom, have a right relationship with their peers, and are characterized by less depression compared with children whose education "started up to chance."
Work together. Your children will never be energized if they see you all the time lying on the bed. Look for these active employment, you have the opportunity to fulfill them with the child. It can life swimming, cycling, football, tennis and other sports. And involve your children in the commanding views sporta- even at the amateur level. Match accustom children to the coordinated work of the team, establishing contact with a reputable individuals and teach them how to achieve their goals. In addition, there is another thing. Teach a child to the proper nutrition, you will relieve him from morbid obesity.
Unfortunately, sometimes even the biggest and gratuitous love for the child, the result goes sideways. Experts call such behavior the mother "overprotection". Overprotective characterized by excessive attention to their child, warning all his wrong steps, and as a result the total deprivation of freedom of action. Such a child will grow infantile, selfish, irresponsible, accustomed to what for him is always someone to do something. Along with the "overprotection" concept, there is such a thing as "hyper custody", it is characterized by a deficit of attention on the part of parents. Such a child may be evil, cruel, arrogant child or, conversely clamped, shy - it all depends on the style of parenting.
There are a few simple rules by which a child can be happy in a certain sense. Firstly, the love, but not what you can smother your child - all good in moderation. Secondly, understanding. This is something that the child wants to achieve so, from the manger, and having carried through the entire adult life. Third, the opportunity to be heard. Sometimes it happens that a child, even in its infancy, there are problems, even if it conflicts over the scapula, or someone pushed someone, it does not matter. The main thing is that here there was a conflict, and for the child it is a problem. Well, that did not give him a shovel play, with tears in her eyes to the right for you and your child starts talking excitedly about what had happened.
The main problem that arises in connection with children - it's like to live with them. If the problem is the education of children in the adult, not the child. One of the best ways to improve the condition of the child - this is a good, well-balanced adult with love and tolerance in his heart. It is important to hear the child, understand his motives, and if he needed advice to help him, but, in any case, does not solve all of it. Then your child will understand how important it is to you and the road, and trust you once, he will speak to you on all topics of interest, and lack of understanding the conflict "Fathers and children" will not interfere with your great relationship with the child.
Raising a child, you first pay attention to teach him, without breaking with his personality. You need to raise a child so that you do not have to control it. You need to make it a wholly owned under any circumstances. It depends on how good is his conduct, his physical and mental health. Children are not dogs. Children can not be "train", as dogs are trained. Children - are not things that can be controlled. Children - and let's not lose sight of this - a man and a woman. The child - this is not some kind of special, unlike the human animal species. The child - a man or a woman, it just is not yet fully grown. It is important to remember that moment.
Self-determination is a condition in which a person of his own choice may or may not be under the control of their environment. The child has the right to self-determination. Lusk and love child are saved only as long as it can act on the basis of self-determination. Preventing him from doing this, you are to some extent preventing him live. If you give something to a child, it belongs to him. It is no longer yours. Clothing, toys, room - everything that was given to him, should remain solely under his own control. The child tormented your nerves, when you act with him in bad way. It is a revenge. He is crying. It bothers you. He breaks your things. He "accidentally" spills the milk. And he deliberately breaks precisely those things that he many times asked handled carefully.
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