Adoption is an increasingly popular option among LGBT individuals and couples, and many adoption agencies are welcoming and supportive. Some states still have laws restricting LGBT adoption, so it's important to conduct plenty of research and and find a good agency to guide you. Meeting other people who have been through the process is a great way to learn essential information and form a strong support network as you start your adoption journey. It will be very difficult but don't lose heart. Keep going, even if it seems to take forever. If you really want to adopt, be prepared for a long wait! How should we fight the system? How can we adopt a child?
First of all - learn your state's adoption laws. Most states don't have specific laws dictating who can adopt based on sexual orientation. Unfortunately, certain states still have laws that make it more difficult for LGBT people to adopt. Since your state's laws will have a big effect on the adoption process, be sure to read up on exactly what to expect.In most states, the decision as to whether gay adoption by two people is legal is made on a case-by-case basis when the adoption is finalized.Some states allow joint-couple adoptions, making it easier for a gay couple to adopt together. Joint adoptions are legal in all states where gay marriage is legal.Other states only allow one member of the couple to adopt. In this case, a separate second parent adoption is often an option.
Know your options if you live in a restrictive state. If you live in a state where LGBT adoption is restricted, it certainly doesn't mean that adoption will be impossible. It may just be a longer, more complicated process. Finding in-state resources to guide you through the legal procedures in your state is key. That way you'll have support in place in case you encounter challenges.Contact your state's equality organization. There you'll find information about how to adopt as an LGBT family or single person in your area.Consider connecting with other LGBT adoptive parents in your state as well. Knowing other people who have been through the process is invaluable.You may also want to speak with an attorney. Laws change frequently, and it will be helpful to discuss them with someone who is up to date.
Consider the role of your adoption agency. As an LGBT individual or couple, you may have more challenges than others do when it comes to adopting a child. That's why it's very important to use an agency that has your best interests in mind. This is especially true if you live in a state with restrictive adoption laws.An LGBT-supportive adoption agency will have experience navigating the laws and completing successful LGBT adoptions.An adoption agency that does not actively support LGBT adoptions could become an obstacle. It will be up to the agency to present your file to potential birth mothers, do a home visit, and so on. It's imperative that they don't have an underlying prejudice against you before proceedings even begin.
Research and evaluate agencies. Look closely at their websites to determine whether they are supportive of LGBT adoptions. Check out the pictures, read the literature, and look for signs that they are LGBT friendly. Many agencies will provide a special page on the site with information for LGBT families. You should feel comfortable with the agency from the get-go.Be alert to any red flags that may be cause to rule out an agency. For example, agencies with a traditional religious affiliation. no pictures of same-sex couples and no mention of same-sex adoption may not be the best choice.If possible, ask other LGBT adoptive parents for a referral as you get started on your search for an agency.
Find out how the agency represents LGBT families to birth mothers. If you would like to adopt an infant, the birth mother will probably have a say in who gets to adopt her child. It will be the agency's job to present her with good potential matches. Make sure the agency regularly presents birth mothers with LGBT candidates if they believe they are a good match.The agency should present LGBT candidates unless the birth mother specifically requests heterosexual candidates only.This particular issue can result in a very long wait time for LGBT candidates, especially in more conservative regions. Make sure the agency does everything possible to ensure fair treatment for LGBT candidates.
Be open about your sexual orientation. Due to the fact that many parts of the US still have discriminatory practices toward LGBT families, it's no wonder that many people feel insecure about revealing their sexual orientation right away. You may be afraid that it will disqualify you from being able to pursue adoption with that agency. However, it's best to be up front about this important part of your life right away. Here's why:You have the law on your side, even in restrictive states. Even in places where gay marriage isn't legal, a single LGBT person can adopt.If you reveal your sexual orientation, you'll be able to gauge the agency's attitude and abilities immediately. If you sense unfriendliness or a lack of willingness to engage, you should rule out that agency and find a better one.
Be yourself during your interviews and home study. Every agency has some version of an interview process and home study. These are geared toward getting to know you better, assessing your financial status, and evaluating your home. Before an agency will match you with a child, they want to know what kind of parent you'll be and whether you're financially up to the task. Although this may sound intimidating, the best course it to be yourself. Put your best foot forward and don't try to hide anything. Withholding any type of important information, including your sexual orientation, can be grounds for excluding you from the application process.
Take action if you feel you're being discriminated against. If during any part of the adoption process you feel you are being treated unfairly because of your sexual orientation, contact an LGBT advocacy organization for help. You may be advised to have a mediation or switch adoption agencies, depending on your situation.Get connected with other LGBT adoptive families. From start to finish, the process of adopting a child can be complicated and emotionally taxing. Every state has support groups for LGBT families going through all stages of adoption. From choosing an agency to getting through home visits to enduring the long wait before at match is found, it helps to have the support of others who care.Contact your state's equality organization for a list of support groups in your area.Meet with people either online or in person, and keep in touch throughout your journey. Once you have adopted a child, you may want to stay involved to help others just starting out.Financing adoption can be very difficult. Some LGBT organizations provide grants and financial aid to help out.
Who try will be always rewarded. More affords we make more positive results we will have. There is no time to give up. If we have a dream we will have enough power to make it true. I think we need to believe that process of adoption will be much easier in near future. Of course any changes come out of the blue. To achieve a success we should influence on the system as much as we can in the most peaceful manner but with strong desire.
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