a date with a co worker??

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Adam Levine
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a date with a co worker??

Postby Adam Levine » Mon Jul 04, 2016 3:24 pm

Dating a co-worker happens a lot - at least 40 percent of people admit to having dated someone at work during their career. And when it happens to you, there are a lot of things to consider about how you go about carry on your romance in the workplace. You might choose to keep it clandestine, or you might decide to shout it from the rooftops but whatever you choose, there are other people intimately involved in this situation who need to be considered too – namely, your co-workers and your boss. Dating a co-worker can lead to long-lasting love but only if you proceed wisely and with care. Did you have such expierence? How did that go?

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby DaddyAdam » Tue Jul 05, 2016 9:56 am

Be sure before all else. Before you've even approached the co-worker of your dreams, be sure that he or she is interested in you in the same way. This takes a little bit of investigation and intuition but it's worth it or you might end up with egg on your face. And if you hardly know them, take time to get to know them before assuming you've made a good decision to ask them out; a solid relationship needs solid foundations to build on. It is also important that you have a balanced life; do you have a solid and enjoyable life outside work? If not, be very wary about a work relationship because it could be a sign that you take work too seriously and don't leave room for anything else and even feel that your relationships have to fit in with work.

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby Richard Hawley » Tue Jul 05, 2016 11:53 am

If you want to know if your co worker is interested in you - check this out. They spend a lot of time with you that isn't work-related, such as during breaks, or going out of their way to come and see you and tell jokes or simply have a chat.Your co-worker comes to ask for your opinion on something that isn't to do with your work area. That can be a sign that your co-worker is finding an excuse to talk to you.Your co-worker is giving you a lot of compliments on a regular basis. Another tactic a co-worker might use is to compliment someone else in your presence to gauge your reaction. In this case, your co-worker might be hoping for a jealous reaction, signaling interest! Flirting is evident from your co-worker.Lots of smiling, grins, and laughing at your inane jokes are coming from your co-worker and are directed at you.You trust and respect this person a great deal and you're absolutely certain that this isn't a fly-by-night whim or a mere lustful thrill.One small but very important thing – be sure that your co-worker is single. An affair at work complicates things for everyone connected to you and your lover, let alone being a very harmful activity to engage in emotionally and morally.

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby Albert » Tue Jul 05, 2016 2:01 pm

Think about the consequences for your job. Once you're satisfied that your co-worker is interested, think about how a workplace romance might impact your job and weigh up the pros and cons. Think about it from the perspective of your reputation at work, right through to how you will be perceived if the two of you break up and still have to work alongside one another. If you seriously think it's still worth trying, then proceed to the next step.If you're dating a boss or other superior level worker, how will this impact your relationships with other co-workers? Some of them are bound to think there is favoritism going on, so you'll need to be able to deal with that sometimes. In addition, will this impact your own chances for promotion if things go sour later on?

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby Peter Parker » Wed Jul 06, 2016 8:30 am

Are workplace romances even allowed? Not all workplaces permit fraternizing with your co-workers on an intimate level and you might end up being transferred, demoted, or even fired. And many workplaces won't allow relationships between superior level staff and general staff because of the poor perception it creates. Remember that losing a job over a relationship is not worth it. It might seem so at the time but it just so isn't!Will you be able to handle the workplace gossip? It will be inevitable. Be sure in your feelings before you make your first step....Luck anyways!

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby Argo » Wed Jul 06, 2016 8:32 am

Hi everybody) I thin at the ork we need to think about the work and nothing more) You should hink about the consequences for your job. Once you are satisfied that your co-worker is interested, think about how a workplace romance might impact your job and weigh up the pros and cons. Think about it from the perspective of your reputation at work, right through to how you will be perceived if the two of you break up and still have to work alongside one another. If you seriously think it is still worth trying, then proceed to the next step. :) Not all workplaces permit fraternizing with your co-workers on an intimate level and you might end up being transferred, demoted, or even fired. And many workplaces won't allow relationships between superior level staff and general staff because of the poor perception it creates.

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby Mark007 » Wed Jul 06, 2016 10:01 am

Ask your co-worker on a date. Once you've gone through the pros and cons and you're sure your co-worker is interested in you too, work up the courage to ask them out. Find a suitable time that is preferably not over the water cooler or mid-way through meeting a deadline together. Ask your co-worker to have lunch or a snack with you, pay for their meal or coffee and sit down together somewhere pleasant and private, where you can ask without distractions. Another idea is to suggest having a coffee after work or after a work function. When asking, don't do so in front of other co-workers; the less people who know at this stage, the better for both of you as you still don't know the outcome.

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby Steven Tyler » Wed Jul 06, 2016 7:28 pm

If your co-worker says yes, rejoice and move on to the next steps.If your co-worker says no, accept what is and apologize for any misunderstandings. Reassure your co-worker that you won't raise it again and that you won't be mentioning it to anyone at work. Remain professional in your future interactions with him or her.Avoid coming on too strong. Keep it casual and friendly.Find common ground - other than work. If your relationship is only grounded on a shared work interest, you may end up become rivals for the same jobs, roles, or promotions and that would totally ruin everything between you. So, spend time getting to know one another more broadly and find out what other interests, beliefs, views, etc., the two of you share. At this point, getting to know one another better is vital for the long-term health of your relationship or to know whether it's better to call it quits sooner rather than later.

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby Natan Scot » Wed Jul 13, 2016 10:57 am

on the one hand it is a really intriguing and exciting. cause the romantic reations on the work is like being completely in the center of TV show. but on the other hand you have to be completely aware of the fact that those relations can finish badly and you'll be facing this guy all the time, every day. and this thing is not easy. be carefu, just think before or talk with a guy before starting love affair, you know. don't make it too difficult to every of you, man. work should be work and as for me itis a taboo to mix it with personal life)

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Re: a date with a co worker??

Postby Argo » Wed Jul 13, 2016 3:16 pm

Hi everybody here) You might choose to keep it clandestine, or you might decide to shout it from the rooftops but whatever you choose, there are other people intimately involved in this situation who need to be considered too – namely, your co-workers and your boss. Before you've even approached the co-worker of your dreams, be sure that he is interested in you in the same way. This takes a little bit of investigation and intuition but it is worth it or you might end up with egg on your face. And if you hardly know them, take time to get to know them before assum ing you've made a good decision to ask them out, :( :( :( a solid relationship needs solid foundations to build on.


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