can you understand that your marriage is over?

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Richard Hawley
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can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Richard Hawley » Mon Jul 04, 2016 8:05 pm

Ending a marriage is never an easy decision, and it's not a choice you should make quickly or lightly. While every situation varies, though, there are some common warning signs that could suggest your relationship is already over. The first sign is spend time together. You need to spend time with each other to make the marriage work. If you avoid each other and feel relieved when you aren't together, it could be a sign that you've completely disconnected from the marriage.Ask yourself how much time you spend with your spouse, then compare that to the amount of time you spend at work (excluding the time you must spend working), with friends, with family, or online. Evaluate the amount of time your spouse spends away, too.While it's perfectly fine to spend time apart, you do need to spend time together. If you're devoting more of your free time to a source other than your spouse, or if your spouse is doing so with regards to you, there's a problem. What are the others?

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby DaddyAdam » Tue Jul 05, 2016 10:22 am

Talk about communication problems. If you and your spouse are no longer able to communicate openly about topics that truly matter, you won't have the means to solve problems in your marriage.You need to talk about issues beyond the mundane. Open communication is a foundational point of emotional intimacy, and without it, you'll inevitably become disconnected. This can be an even bigger problem if the two of you refuse to be open with each other but can talk to others with a greater degree of vulnerability.Ask yourself who you share big with first. The answer should be your spouse. If you would rather talk to anyone else over your spouse, even if it's only a relative, you've already lost the emotional intimacy you need.Similarly, ask yourself if you're really interested in hearing about your spouse's life, too. You need to be willing to listen and care about your spouse; otherwise, you'll end up pushing him or her away.

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Albert » Tue Jul 05, 2016 2:14 pm

Work as a team. Spouses who can work through everyday life as a team can typically make their marriages last, but if you abandon each other in pursuit of your own self-interests, you won't be able to coordinate your daily lives in an effective manner.
Marriage requires you to live your lives together, and teamwork is essential in making that work. You need to make joint decisions about matters that affect you both, including everything from parenting to finances.You also need to view your spouse as a team when thinking about your own ambitions, and the favor must be returned. Spouses who work toward separate goals will naturally drift apart from each other.

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Argo » Wed Jul 06, 2016 7:54 am

Hi everybody here) :lol: :lol: You need to be sure that it is not only your imagination and this is try, that your marriage is not so strong like it was before. You need together think about the future. More precisely, think about a future without your spouse and evaluate how that makes you feel. If such fantasies evoke a strong sense of happiness, your subconscious might be sending you a sign that things are over. :( :( :( This should not be your only reason for ending things, though, and you should not rush the process along after one or two fantasies. Such daydreams are often unrealistic, especially if they are the result of a mid-life crisis, so you should not decide your future on them.

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Peter Parker » Wed Jul 06, 2016 9:14 am

Touch on intimacy issues. Physical intimacy is an important part of any marriage. Refusing to spend time in one another's arms signals a severe loss of both physical and emotional attraction.
A lack of physical intimacy doesn't always spell the end of a marriage if the problem if the problem is rooted in physical or mental health issues, but if the matter is caused by a simple lack of desire, it could be a very bad sign.
Note that physical intimacy includes sex, but sex isn't the only issue. Other forms of physical intimacy can be just as significant: holding hands, cuddling, etc.

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Mark007 » Wed Jul 06, 2016 10:12 am

Think about the future. More precisely, think about a future without your spouse and evaluate how that makes you feel. If such fantasies evoke a strong sense of happiness, your subconscious might be sending you a sign that things are over.This shouldn't be your only reason for ending things, though, and you shouldn't rush the process along after one or two fantasies. Such daydreams are often unrealistic, especially if they're the result of a mid-life crisis, so you shouldn't decide your future on them.On the other hand, if there are other problems in your marriage and you find more bliss from the thought of separating than you find in the idea of staying together, you should take that as a red flag.

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Steven Tyler » Wed Jul 06, 2016 7:34 pm

Respect each other. Both spouses need to have a healthy level of respect for one another. If either one of you demonstrates a lack of respect for the other, you'll become opponents rather than allies.
Signs of disrespect are fairly obvious, and the disrespected spouse will usually feel rejected or condescended to on a regular basis. In many cases, this type of problem can be resolved through communication or counseling. If ignored, though, a lack of respect can wear things down beyond repair.

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Adam Levine » Fri Jul 08, 2016 5:18 pm

Do you really want to things work out for you ???? Ask yourself how you communicate about your contributions. If you are constantly competing by comparing how hard you work or how much energy you spend on your shared responsibilities (kids, household, pets and so on), both of you probably assume that the other spouse has it easier. That can cause you to feel mistreated and view your spouse as an enemy. such situation can really lead your marriage to the end. Unfortunatelly. But still you can solve such problems. Try to change you roles in the household and you will see

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Natan Scot » Mon Jul 11, 2016 11:22 am

Perhaps it is over when you have divorced?)) ;) ;) ;) ;) But if to be serious, then i guess it is the simmiar as the topic about cheating. amost all the hints are simillar, you know. very often the couples loose interest to each other. both sexual and friend ike. when you do not want to spend time with your spouse then it is the end, or perhaps it tells about probems and if you are clever you'll be able to deal with it. Allso when you constanty quarre, you know, even if the reason is nuesance. that is why pay attention to the smalest things and you'll know, i am sure)

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Re: can you understand that your marriage is over?

Postby Argo » Wed Jul 13, 2016 4:24 pm

Hi guys) You need to spend time with each other to make the marriage work. If you avoid each other and feel relieved when you are not together, it could be a sign that you have completely disconnected from the marriage. Ask yourself how much time you spend with your spouse, then compare that to the amount of time you spend at work , with friends, with family, or online. Evaluate the amount of time your spouse spends away :x . While it is perfectly fine to spend time apart, you do need to spend time together. If you're devoting more of your free time to a source other than your spouse, or if your spouse is doing so with regards to you, there's a problem.


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