how to know if it is a true love

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Peter Parker
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how to know if it is a true love

Postby Peter Parker » Thu Jun 23, 2016 4:20 pm

Love is a pretty powerful drug. When you feel it, you really feel it. It can suspend time, making the whole world seem still except for you two.It feeds you more than any nourishment; you feel full in the presence of love.But there’s a vast difference between love and true love. True love knows no depth. It’s an endless tunnel that sweeps you up in the whirlwind and you’re never quite free from it. It stays with you. And you hope this person will too.True love isn’t ordinary. It doesn’t come around often and that’s how you’ll know it’s genuine. But what is the difference anyway? Can you name it please?

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby Richard Hawley » Fri Jun 24, 2016 1:44 pm

I have few ideas... You see something and instead of thinking how happy it makes you, you think about how happy it would make them. You feel more at home with them than you've ever felt in your entire life. Even when you were 7 and had all the stuffed animals in the world. You find yourself singing Macy Gray at various times throughout the day. You can get all-out mad or depressed or happy or whatever it is that you are in front of them. And you know it won't change how they feel about you. Patience: It doesn't matter how long it takes for them to understand something, you enjoy spending the time teaching or learning from them.

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby JerryLee » Fri Jun 24, 2016 2:02 pm

If you want to know whether it is a true love, or does a person realy loves you, then see if the person can truly be him or herself around you. Part of being love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn't show the public, then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then s/he is really opening up to you and loves you.
If the person shares his or her deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that is love.
If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if you see every side of him or her.

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby Adam Levine » Sat Jun 25, 2016 1:13 pm

You have the option to wear your go-to outfit, but still take an extra five minutes to get ready. You live for their quirks. You love that they take up the entire dance floor when they break a move. You love that you can't share meals because they hate chicken. You love that they will discuss celebrities like they're your real friends. You'd much rather have them be weird than anyone else. You still go over to their place no matter how late at night it is and how tired you feel. It's always worth it.You don't desire other people. Yes, you might find some of them attractive, but no part of you wants them.

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby Harry Kane » Sat Jun 25, 2016 3:37 pm

You associate certain scents with them. Cut grass reminds you of the time after your morning run. Football leather brings you to autumn evenings spent playing catch in the leaves. And don't get us started on the smell of their pillow…. You dream of all the ways you can take care of them more than you dream of all the ways you want them to take care of you. You never don't want to listen to them – even when they sing Motown absolutely terribly in the shower.When you do fight — it's part of loving someone — you truly don't want to be mad at them. You don't talk badly about them after it’s resolved either because you know their actions came from a good place.

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby Albert » Sun Jun 26, 2016 10:16 am

When you do fight — it's part of loving someone — you truly don't want to be mad at them. You don't talk badly about them after it’s resolved either because you know their actions came from a good place. As if it's even possible, you find them to be even cuter when they are sleeping. (I promise this isn't creepy…) They can come at you with anything — news, secrets, maybe even a baseball bat — and you won't judge or hate them for it. You wake up happy if only because you get to see them that day.Neither of you think about Channing Tatum during sex.

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby Steven Tyler » Mon Jun 27, 2016 11:02 am

What is real love actually? To find the right person, be the right person. Before you get back into a relationship, build your life. Finish your unfinished business. Become objective about what went wrong in your last relationship, and in the relationships before that. Do a relationship inventory and a life inventory. You must discover the patterns and habits that torpedoed previous relationships before you get into a new one. If you're in a relationship and trying to salvage or save it, you—both of you—must figure out and heal that which has been hurting you and your relationship. If one partner changes, the other is forced to change or leave. You cannot maintain the status quo when one of you chooses to change.

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby Sheldon » Mon Jun 27, 2016 1:43 pm

Real love communicates in a healthy way. Name calling is out. Blaming and nitpicking is out. Accusations are out. Learn to begin sentences with "I feel" or "I think" or "In my opinion," and be with others who communicate similarly. Don't let anyone project onto you what you are thinking or feeling. Don't defend yourself against that which you're not doing. There is much game-playing in dysfunctional relationships. The only way to win is not to play. Healthy relationships are about forthright and honest communication. Feel it with all your body - then it will be real love

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby William Lawn » Tue Jun 28, 2016 2:16 pm

As a prelude to finding real love, learn to be discriminating in all your relationships—with family, friends, acquaintances, and co-workers. Learn to make choices and not just let friendships and professional relationships "happen." Don't spend time with family just because they're family. Choose to only have those in your life who are loving, respectful, honest, and open, and who care about you. Choose people who know that trust is earned and that once broken, it's next to impossible to get back. Choose people who do not keep you guessing about how they feel, or how they feel about you. Choose people who are not ambivalent about you or their relationship with you.

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Re: how to know if it is a true love

Postby Mark007 » Tue Jun 28, 2016 5:03 pm

Stop being a victim. Stop thinking you have no control over what happens to you. Most people stuck in unhealthy patterns (including me when I was) are stuck in a mud pit of denial, justification, and rationalization. Learn to call yourself on your own rationalizations, and stop believing the justifications that keep you stuck and "victimized." You need to untangle yourself from any need you might have to be pitied. If you find yourself telling stories in which you were taken advantage of or someone did you wrong, and the stories are being told to generate sympathy, stop and realize that going through life as a victim is not attractive to healthy people. Take charge of yourself and what happens to you day in and day out.


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