if you want him to be happy

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if you want him to be happy

Postby Sheldon » Thu Jun 23, 2016 5:03 pm

Once you’ve accomplished the task of finding a good guy, the next job is holding onto him. The simplest and usually best way to keep a boyfriend around is to make him feel happy. This doesn’t mean giving him everything he says he wants like things you're not comfortable with, though. Instead, you need to show that you understand him, care for him, and appreciate him. Being happy yourself doesn’t hurt, either. One of the easiest way - compliment him. No matter what he says or how he acts about it, your boyfriend (like everyone else) appreciates hearing nice things about himself. We all seek validation for how we look and what we do, especially when it comes from someone we care about. It’s good for your boyfriend’s ego, his pride, and his happiness. What are other ways?

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby JerryLee » Fri Jun 24, 2016 1:34 pm

Be emotionally supportive. Everyone wants to know that they are loved and appreciated. Encourage your friends to follow their dreams, especially if no one else will. Find a way to tell them how much they mean to you, even if you have to do it casually or inconspicuously. Be caring and compassionate in all your dealings. Just being there for your friends, whether they’re having a major life struggle or just ranting about their work situation, can be the best thing you can do to make them happier.
Another way to be emotionally supportive is to let your friends know when they’re being self-destructive. If they’re in a bad relationship, making poor life choices, or squandering their talents, find a gentle way to discuss it with them. Whether or not they listen is up to them, but at least you took the time to be honest.

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby Richard Hawley » Fri Jun 24, 2016 1:51 pm

Tell him you appreciate him. Relationships are hard work, and require effort from both parties. Take note of the things he does for you and for the relationship, and let him know that you do notice and are thankful.Does he work a second job so he can take you out on nice dates or save money for an apartment? Does he go out of his way to pick you up so you don’t have to walk home in the rain? Is he nice to your mother? Specifically say to him “I appreciate that you do [this thing] for me and for us.”Of course, no matter how long you’ve been together, no matter what you’ve done or not done, you always have the right to say no. If he can’t accept that, get a new boyfriend.

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby Adam Levine » Sat Jun 25, 2016 1:08 pm

Display your affections. Even if you have a guy that isn’t big on public displays of affection, there are always subtle ways to let him know how you feel. Actions usually speak louder than words when it comes to demonstrating affection.Hold his hand, and kiss him for no good reason. If he’s not the hand-holding type, let your hand brush against his from time to time, and maybe just slip him a quick peck on the cheek.Even most modern guys like to feel like protectors, so putting your head on his shoulder or sitting on his lap is a good way to create a sense of him protecting you with his embrace.

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby Harry Kane » Sat Jun 25, 2016 3:18 pm

Give him your attention. Simply spending time together is great, but make sure that you are putting your focus squarely on him for at least some of that time. That means putting your phone down, looking him in the eyes, and listening, talking, or just letting him know you’re there.Make your time together quality time — something you both enjoy and will remember. Life is busy and only seems to get busier, so don’t take your time together for granted. Go on a surprise day trip. Take a surfing lesson together. Just sit and talk with no distractions.According to esteemed relationship researcher John Gottman, healthy relationships tend to have a ratio of at least five positive interactions for every negative one.

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby Albert » Sun Jun 26, 2016 10:23 am

Speak his language. Over the past twenty-plus years, many experts and laypeople alike have embraced relationship researcher Gary Chapman's concept that all people "speak" one or more of five "love languages." By identifying the language that fits your boyfriend, you will be better prepared to communicate effectively and show affection.Chapman's five "love languages" include: words of affirmation; quality time; gifts; acts of service; and physical contact. Depending upon their primary language, people are more receptive to acts of love that match that category. For instance, someone whose language is "quality time" will respond better to a long weekend together than a gift card to his favorite store.

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby MORAN » Sun Jun 26, 2016 11:24 am

If you want to be happy, just be) :D :D Everything is very easy. :!: People have an unfortunate tendency to remember negative experiences but forget positive ones. However, thanks to adaptability , you can actually change the way your soul functions. You can train your soul to be happier. You may practice mindfulness. Occupy your mind with positive thoughts and humming a tune, for happy effects on the mind and body. Focusing on your experiences in the present moment without judging them can help you become more compassionate to yourself and to others. :D Smile a little, hop, skip and sing in those moments, and they will not slip so quietly through the cracks of memory.

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby Peter Parker » Sun Jun 26, 2016 12:17 pm

Admitting to cheating on your boyfriend, for example, is probably one of the most difficult times to be honest. Don't put it off indefinitely, but do wait for a time when you are both calm and can speak without distractions. Choose your words carefully (practice beforehand if it helps), but don't be so vague that your point is not being made clearly. Start with something along the lines of "I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but you deserve the truth," then admit your transgression without making excuses. Apologize and explain, but don't beg or demand forgiveness; say you hope he can forgive you.

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby Steven Tyler » Mon Jun 27, 2016 11:26 am

Give him his space. Of course, a good boyfriend will want to spend a lot of time with you. But he’ll still want and need some time to himself or with his friends. So long as it doesn’t come to the point where he’s regularly ignoring you, let him have it.You like to have some time to yourself, right? Well, remember that trust is a two-way street. If you can’t let him have space to do his own thing, why should you expect it in return?Every solid relationship requires some personal space. Some need more than others. So long as he’s with you when it counts — that is, when you need him, for a ride or for a shoulder to cry on — you should be glad. Don’t make him be with you, make him want to be with you.

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Re: if you want him to be happy

Postby William Lawn » Tue Jun 28, 2016 2:12 pm

Cook him a nice meal and let him watch sports. This might be the ideal Sunday afternoon for many guys. If your boyfriend likes food and football, indulge him at least sometimes. Maybe he wants you to watch the game with him, or maybe he’d rather just watch it with his friends. Use your knowledge of him to decide what’s best.Of course, maybe your guy hates sports and is on a strict diet. As mentioned, this isn’t “one size fits all” advice. However, the larger principle — giving your boyfriend what makes him happy sometimes, even if it is a bit annoying for you — remains true for most any type of guy.

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