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Adam Levine
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coming too fast

Postby Adam Levine » Thu Jun 23, 2016 3:28 pm

It’s a dreaded feeling that I know only too well. That agonizing frustration when my boyfriend comes too fast when we have sex. The worst thing is that you know why your sex life is disappointing, but don’t know what to do about it.You wish you could talk to him about it honestly, but you’re too worried that he’ll take it badly.You just don’t want to shatter his self-confidence and make him feel inadequate. If you have such a problem - of all the many methods to tackle premature ejaculation, the behavioral techniques are the only ones with the potential to actually cure the problem. Am i right?

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Richard Hawley
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Re: coming too fast

Postby Richard Hawley » Sat Jun 25, 2016 7:40 am

You are very right! Of all the many methods to tackle premature ejaculation, the behavioral techniques are the only ones with the potential to actually cure the problem.If you and your boyfriend are willing to practice some specific techniques, he may be able to develop much better control. And it will save you both a lot of money on desensitizing products over the coming years.I also think it’s a good idea to educate yourself as much as possible about the problem. You can always read it first, then pass it on to him.In many ways it’s helpful to present him with real solutions. You can give him the book, then leave it to him to decide to read it or not. I can guarantee he will!

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Harry Kane
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Re: coming too fast

Postby Harry Kane » Sat Jun 25, 2016 2:56 pm

Start-Stop technique.This is by far the most simple technique and can be done alone or with a partner.The technique involves stimulating the penis and stopping just before you feel you are about to ejaculate. Stop the stimulation for 30-60 seconds and start again once you feel that you have regained control. Repeat this process 4-5 times, stopping and “resting” every time you feel that you are about to have an orgasm. Finally, let the ejaculation occur, so that you can identify the “point of no-return”. Many couples and partners complain, however, about the inconvenience of this “game” and find it frustrating. Try to incorporate it smoothly into sex and take advantage of the pauses to focus on sources of pleasure other than the penis.

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Re: coming too fast

Postby Albert » Sun Jun 26, 2016 10:01 am

The "squeeze" technique works by squeezing the penis in the area between the shaft and the glans (for about 30 seconds), just before you are about to ejaculate. This stops the ejaculation, but may affect your erection, at least until you are stimulated again. You should then repeat this process 4-5 times until you decide not to delay orgasm anymore.To be effective, this method has to be used for several months and it requires great perseverance from the man and his partner.The idea behind the "squeeze" technique is that, after a while, you are able to recognize the “point of no return” and may be able to delay future ejaculations. This technique may be frustrating though as it can disrupt sexual activity.

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Re: coming too fast

Postby Peter Parker » Sun Jun 26, 2016 11:58 am

Longer foreplay can help increase satisfaction of your partner as well as delay your ejaculation. Longer foreplay can improve your relationship by reducing dissatisfaction, frustration and performance-related anxiety.Be aware that the more pressure men feel during sex, the more likely they are to suffer from PE.Communication will help you overcome many issues and any discrepancies between your desires and those of your partner.Thick condoms: try these if you think your penis is too sensitive. They can help decrease its sensitivity.Focus on other sexual pleasures: this can decrease anxiety and help you gain better control over your ejaculation.Talk to your doctor: PE is a very treatable condition.

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Re: coming too fast

Postby Steven Tyler » Mon Jun 27, 2016 10:52 am

First things first, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. The amount of time your body needs to orgasm is the amount of time your body needs to orgasm. There’s nothing “wrong” about that. It’s like saying there’s something “wrong” about how much sleep you need every night. Our bodies have needs, and it’s each of our jobs to take care of those needs as best we can, and without judgment!I understand that you’re feeling like you’re the “slow” one, but we could just as easily say that your boyfriend is orgasming “too fast." Do not think about that too much !

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Re: coming too fast

Postby Sheldon » Mon Jun 27, 2016 1:32 pm

Unfortunately, a lot of guys out there focus solely on their orgasms and don’t check in about their partners’. If you and your boyfriend have never talked about your orgasmic timing before, it’s possible that he doesn’t realize that you’d like sex to last longer. He may have had boyfriends in the past who liked fast sex. Or maybe you’ve been faking orgasm, and he thinks everything is fine as is. He might be fully aware that he’s orgasming quickly, but too embarrassed to talk about it with you. Or there’s a possibility that he’s being a selfish or inconsiderate lover. I don’t know him, so I can’t make that judgment!

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Re: coming too fast

Postby JerryLee » Mon Jun 27, 2016 3:08 pm

Well, it is a probem of caurse, but you can prevent it. for example there are a ot of different technics, positions that proong the whole process. And it will save you both a lot of money on desensitizing products over the coming years.I also think it’s a good idea to educate yourself as much as possible about the problem. You can always read it first, then pass it on to him.In many ways it’s helpful to present him with real solutions. You can give him the book, then leave it to him to decide to read it or not. I can guarantee he will! ;) ;)

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Re: coming too fast

Postby William Lawn » Tue Jun 28, 2016 1:59 pm

Let’s talk about some specific strategies to try in the moment. If intercourse tends to go quickly for him, one of the best ways to increase the likelihood of you having an orgasm is to spend more time on all the good stuff before intercourse. Foreplay is a lot of fun, so this shouldn’t feel like a chore!The next time you guys are hooking up, tell him, “Let’s take our time. I love it when we do that.” Spend a while just making out. Ask him to touch you all over your body, and touch him all over his. Take your clothes off slowly. Ask him to tease you and hold out on you until you’re practically begging him to have sex with you. The closer you are to orgasm before you start having intercourse, the faster you’ll be able to get there once it begins.

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Re: coming too fast

Postby Mark007 » Tue Jun 28, 2016 4:53 pm

Another great way to prolong the fun is to take little breaks from intercourse. If he’s going full steam ahead, he’s bound to orgasm quickly, so breaks give him a chance to cool down. Ask your boyfriend to tease you more, by getting you to the edge of orgasm, then stopping for a few moments before starting up again. Have him pull out, then finger you, go down on you, or use a toy on you. You can tease him too! Try taking the lead the next time you have sex, and stop when you can sense him getting close.
Do not be stressed about that much. You have enough advices here so you will be ok


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