My neighbours from down below have a 3 years old kid. Its a cute girl, who calls me by name already, when I meet them in the hall, and always smiles. Recently she and her parents encountered a very unpleasant problem. She started to have nightmares. I knew about that because of her scream at night, and that was not just once. that is happening for 2 weeks already, once in 2 or 3 days. I am so terrified with that.. And adult person can handle that.. but a small child, that grows up in a good family, how could she possibly get this problem? And how should the parents act in this case? Is there any efficient psychological treatment for that?
It is a very serious problem that your neghbours' child has nightmares. It can lead to more serious results. It also can mean she has some problems with her psyche. I think the best advice is that parents and their daughter should visit a doctor in order to find out what thing causes this horrible nightmares. I wish this girl is happy and does not have any nightmares.
Unfavorable atmosphere in the family, quarrels between the parents, the showdown between the two, a divorce, a very strict upbringing, abuse of family members, the lack of emotional relationship with parents, punishments. Absence of contact with peers, non-receipt of the communication with them, the absence of the necessary psychological support. All these affect the quality of sleep of children. Faced with a situation where your kid has nightmares, don’t lose self-control. Do not show that you are frightened and upset too, convince a child that there is nothing to be afraid of. Try to restore emotional connection with your baby. Limit aggressive impact of the environment on the psyche of your baby. Normalize sleep and rest. Pay attention to the health of your child.
You should turn on the light. If a child came running to you in the bedroom sometimes it is enough to listen carefully, to soothe, to take him back to his room and turn on the light. In the morning ask what such a dream child. If he refuses to talk - do not insist. Tells - perfectly. Help him to turn a dream inside, make it absurd and ridiculous. A nightmare and can draw. At your discretion: to draw scary, and then destroy the image; or converted into ridiculous. Sometimes you can break the rules. If the baby is very scared and refuses to return to his room it is better allow him to stay with you. A quiet evening - the key to a good night. Avoid noisy games before bedtime. Instead, the dynamic cartoon - read a fairy tale or use a quiet relaxing music.
the nightmares are a usual ting from time to time - and they are not always caused by some unpleasant experiences in life. sometimes our deepest instincts are showing themselves in the nightmares. We all do have the genetic memory. About the ancient pre historical times. About the forests, full of the predators, about the forces of nature that we did not understand at that time. But when the kid sees the nightmares during several nights in a row - that is a very good reason to visit the psychiatrist. I think that is a sign of a serious problem. I think you should advice that to your neighbours, if they still did not do that themselves. It is such a pity to see the kid suffering from the things that even her parents can't protect her from.
What nightmares are, most children get to know after the age of three years. The most common cause of nightmares is the feverish reaction. If the child is healthy, the causes of nightmares can be intense (this age) of intellectual activity, high psycho-emotional stress; overwork the brain and subconscious produces a reaction in the form of a nightmarish sleep. Also one possible cause of nightmares is trouble in the family. A child, which for one reason or another often has nightmares, needs special treatment by parents. In the first place should be excluded all the factors which could cause nightmares. For a child suffering from nightmares, in addition, should be organized a healthy lifestyle
Hopefully, I do not have children So, I have never faced to this problem. I do not want to make you feel disappointed, but if your child has nightmares too often, I guess he has some problems with psyche or nerves Maybe it is not right, so in order to be sure everything is okey and your kid does not have any serious problems, you should better visit a doctor
Try to create a good mood before bedtime. If the child is worried about nightmares, and he does not remember what he had dreamed, it is not necessary to discuss this either with him or in his presence. If nightmares occur at a certain time of sleep, before it is necessary to wake up the child and put back to sleep. If nightmare time is not indicated, it is possible to wake up after 20 minutes after falling asleep and put to sleep again. If your child remembers what he dreamed (nightmare), then turn on the night light at night and discussing sleep. It is desirable to increase the duration of sleep for an hour longer in the evening / morning + naps. Very good "support" is a soft toy, which should be selected with the child, as the guardian of fears in the dream. Parents should negotiate it with the child.
Nightmares in children occur quite often. Therefore, parents should be ready to help at any moment. Try to return the child to the reality of his calm, create comfort: wrap it in a warm blanket, give a warm drink some water or tea, and take to your bed. If the terrible images still stand in front of the eyes of a child, ask him about them. Tell us what they are not real, that it is - just his imagination. Have come up with a happy ending dreamed story or distract the child from evil thoughts tale story of his own childhood. You can also take your child to a specialist who can help cope with fears. He also finds the reasons of these nightmares and tells how to troubleshoot them.
So, how are the things with that kid - does she still have the nightmares? One of the guys here suggested to create a "good mood" before the sleep. It would be a great idea to read her a good fairy tale - or to watch some cool cartoon, that would make her laugh.. Shrek, for example, or the Zootopia - those are my personal favourites) Perhaps it will take some time to overcome that, but eventually, if she will have lot of positive emotions during the day, sooner or later they are going to replace all the negative ones in her subconsciousness - and the problem will be solved. Anyway, I hope that this girl is sleeping peacefully now)
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