deal with loneliness

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Sheldon
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deal with loneliness

Postby Sheldon » Thu Jun 23, 2016 4:58 pm

Have you ever been lonely in a crowd? Have you ever been perfectly content all alone? Me too. And I have also suffered from loneliness.Loneliness is a complex mental and emotional phenomenon that has at its base a powerful emotion that has survival value for children. All of us have experienced some degree of abandonment, if only for a short time, and remember the painful and scary feeling that goes along with it. The thing i have realized is that loneliness is a feeling, not a fact. When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are in fact, isolated and alone. The brain is designed to pay attention to pain and danger, and that includes painful scary feelings; therefore loneliness gets our attention.
What do you think of it and how do u deal with loneliness?

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JerryLee
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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby JerryLee » Fri Jun 24, 2016 1:44 pm

Practice meditation. Some research has suggested that meditation may ease feelings associated with loneliness and depression. Meditation is also a great way to get more in touch with your feelings of loneliness and start to understand where they come from. Learning to meditate takes time, practice, and guidance, so your best bet is to find a meditation class in your area. If no classes are available in your area, you can also buy CDs that will help you learn how to meditate.
To get started with meditation, find a quiet spot and get comfortable. You can either sit in a chair or on a cushion on the floor with your legs crossed. Close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing. As you focus on your breathing, try not to get distracted by your thoughts. Just let them happen and pass by.
Without opening your eyes, observe the world around you. Pay attention to how you feel as well. What do you hear? What do you smell? How do you feel? Physically? Emotionally?

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Richard Hawley
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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby Richard Hawley » Fri Jun 24, 2016 1:49 pm

Realize that you aren't alone. Loneliness is a normal part of being human, but it can make you feel like you are abnormal. Reach out to a friend or family member and talk with that person about how you are feeling. As you tell someone about your feelings, you can also ask if they have had these feelings too. This process of reaching out and sharing with someone will help you to see that you are not alone.Try saying something like, “Lately I have been feeling lonely and I wondered if you have ever felt this way.”If you do not have a friend or family member to talk to, reach out to a teacher, counselor, or pastor.

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Adam Levine
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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby Adam Levine » Sat Jun 25, 2016 12:47 pm

Move forward. Instead of persistently dwelling on how alone you feel, do things to get your mind off of your loneliness. Take a walk, ride your bike or read a book. Explore activities and hobbies, and don't be afraid to try new things. Having experience gives you a basis upon which you can comment in more social situations (thus talk to more people) and strike up conversations that will interest other people.Keep yourself busy. Having down time is what causes feelings of loneliness to creep in. Throw yourself into work or extracurricular activities. But...If you have a persistent feeling of loneliness, seek medical help. It might be a sign of depression.

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Harry Kane
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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby Harry Kane » Sat Jun 25, 2016 3:16 pm

Do social activities by yourself. If you don’t have someone to go out with all of the time, don’t let that stop you from getting out and enjoying yourself. For example, if you want to go out to dinner or to a movie on a date, then take yourself out to a movie or to a nice restaurant. Although, at first, it may seem awkward to be doing things by yourself that you might normally do with someone else, don't hold yourself back. It is not strange to be by yourself and out doing things! Once you remember why you did these things before, you can enjoy the activity for itself again.

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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby MORAN » Sun Jun 26, 2016 8:45 am

People feel lonely for a number of reasons, including simple social awkwardness and intentional isolation. Some people may even feel lonely when they are surrounded by people because they lack meaningful connections with those people. You need to find a reason of your lonelisness. :!: Loneliness is a normal part of being human, but it can make you feel like you are abnormal. Reach out to a friend or family member and talk with that person about how you are feeling. As you tell someone about your feelings, you can also ask if they have had these feelings too. This process of reaching out and sharing with someone will help you to see that you are not alone 8-) 8-)

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Albert
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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby Albert » Sun Jun 26, 2016 10:30 am

Learn something new. Learning is the most important aspect of living alone. It helps to keep the boogeyman away, and also gives you something to talk about when you do have to actually enter society. Learning is also incredibly more efficient when you don't have social responsibilities like family to take care of, or a girlfriend or boyfriend to entertain.Learning isn't just exclusive to books (although they are a great source of knowledge). You can learn to do anything by just practicing. Enrolling in classes is fun and also helps with the social life - you will meet new people in your classes. If you're not so much into the meeting people, the Internet is a great way to learn pretty much everything (That's what this site's for!).

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Peter Parker
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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby Peter Parker » Sun Jun 26, 2016 12:19 pm

Take life positively, sometimes with patience, and remember things will all work out in the end.Life is very beautiful, and so very short, so enjoy every moment of life.Let go. Don't think about being alone, just accept it.Don't let others (especially married friends and colleagues)influence or pressure you into feeling somehow guilty or inadequate about your single/live-alone status. The single life isn't for everybody, obviously, but neither is marriage or cohabiting couple arrangements. So to each his/her own. Revel in your independence, and the choices you've made regarding your life and living alone.

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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby Steven Tyler » Mon Jun 27, 2016 11:30 am

Have fun, don't let the little things get to you.Keep your mind as active as possible. It will help you cope with the fact that you are alone and will also help you improve yourself.Remember that life has it's seasons. It is constantly changing. So even if you desire to be with a significant other, it'll come when it's supposed to come. Be patient to let your life take it's own course, for everyone's path and story is different and the present isn't always going to be the future.Be confident and respect yourself always.
Be happy and do not ever care about people who do not care about you

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William Lawn
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Re: deal with loneliness

Postby William Lawn » Tue Jun 28, 2016 2:15 pm

Be careful before falling in love; being single can be more fun than having a whiny boyfriend or girlfriend. So be careful how you choose; it could cost you your sanity and free lifeJust think that being alone is temporary, you will always meet new people.It's important not to forget others in your life - keep in touch with other people and continue to expand your social network. For extroverts, enjoying being alone may come as more of a challenge.Go out for a walk and get some fresh air- morning sun will boost your energy, at night, air will loosen any stress.Never forget those wonderful moments with your family.


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