How to bond with your adopted chield

Dorian
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How to bond with your adopted chield

Postby Dorian » Sun Jan 07, 2018 3:13 pm

Hello, guys! Resently I married with a man and we desided to adopt a chield. We adoped a girl, her name is Lucy. She's a wonderful chield. Lucy and my husband have wonderful relationships, but as for me, I don't understand what is wrong. We don't have quarrels, I try to be very nice with her, but still, it seems to me that she doesn't like me as my husband. what can you advise?

George86
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Re: How to bond with your adopted chield

Postby George86 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 7:02 pm

Hi there. Maybe firstly you should find out something about her from her father. Some hobbies, interests to find common language with his daughter. I can just recommend you to be patient and ready for anything. You should of course remember that you are the parent. It takes a very patient and levelheaded person to adopt. Remember this no matter how hard you are tested. And always remember that it will take as much time as the child decides.The child may have some behaviors, especially in the beginning months. Good luck in finding common language)

Dan13d
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Re: How to bond with your adopted chield

Postby Dan13d » Wed Feb 07, 2018 9:36 pm

I will start with the question to you ?Did you discuss your feelings with the husband ?What does he think about this situation?I am sure ,if something was wrong and a child liked him better ,he would talk with you at that topic .
Secondly ,the reason can be in different interests or spending not enough time with her. how old is the girl?You have to think about girl interests according her age .Take her on a walk to the park or something like that .Maybe,you should do it alone ,without your husband ,it will help a child to trust you more ,to feel you and your love .

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Re: How to bond with your adopted chield

Postby Gilbert » Thu Apr 19, 2018 5:37 am

Hey there guys. I am so glad to start this conversation exactly today. It is a pretty good choice as well. You are right that the level of difficulty will vary depending on the child's age and the experiences they went through in foster care or with the biological parents, but this article assumes they are past the infant and toddler stage. The main thing to remember is that the child does want to be loved and find a stable and supportive home, no matter how distant or upset they may seem. You may simply love him and show this love and your respect towards him


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